Thursday, September 29, 2011
1. Don't take in the information junks coming from everywhere. News, gossip, etc. are not always important enough for us. They sometimes just clogged our head with worry and the image of the bad world. Too much watching TV will make us forget how good this life is to us. By filtering information about the world, we indeed can make it a better place to live!
2. I have a packet of fancy oldies accessories I never wear since years ago. Now I know finally that I will never wear them, simply I don't need those things. Yeap, if we think about it, we will find that we can clean out the clutter. They may hold nostalgic value or else, indeed, but the reality is you won't use it any more. You can scan them, take pics of them, document them, but the junk is ready to be thrown, or donated, or for a garage sale.
3. If you find yourself mesmerised by those programs in TV sets, take a distance. Take a break, outdoor, or cross country, or (theres so many things outside there). Of course, you can't easily forget the mesmerizing romance minutes of that soap opera, everyday. With all those things, take a break! From a distance, you'll know and experience a better day without them.
4. Make a vacant time in-between your agenda. You may need to learn to do nothing. It can be relieving and relaxing when become your daily life. Don't jam your time with minute to minute appointment, work things, etc without a real blank spaces.
5. Make a room inside yourself for simplicity. You don't need to be a bearded hermit to find your inner peace; just spend a little time every day for meditating, walking at a beach in the morning, or just praying in silence to God, or just lying or sitting alone at the porch with your own self and a glass of tea.
Monday, September 26, 2011
Talking about happy life, one research found that when human being were especially focused on goals that pertained to money and possessions, they were less happy. This is really the opposite of what consumer society inform us.
Some people call this simple lifestyle as "voluntary simplicity," which basically means opting for a less materialistic life. Instead of spending the holiday time in front of a television or a computer game, a voluntary simplifier might plant the vegetables in his/her garden to be cooked the next month.
Talking psychologically, living simple means we rearrange our psychological needs. This really means money is not on the top. Indeed we prioritize those things like safety/security/faith, feel like you'll survive with enough clothes, food/water, and shelter (in ancient Javanese parole: sandang pangan papan); then efficacy/ability, feeling like you are able to do the things you need. You alos need relatedness, feels like you have close relationships with other people. Another need is freedom or autonomy, concerrning with feeling that you do something because you choose it, not because someone forced you to do it. By going back to basic needs, we can meditate which one is essential or not in our daily life.
Walking the talk, the first thing you may try is: slowing down and enjoy whatever you do, whether it’s typing, cooking, taking bath: just slow down. Pay attention, but not concentrating or thinking. Be here and now, be in the moment. You may enjoy all of these as meditative steps. You may find it not easy at first, as you will often forget. However, almost all activity will be enjoyable if you give proper attention. Day by day, slowly, you begin to aware how many activities can be simplified to just several basic ones, and things will more enjoyable.
Thursday, September 22, 2011
Creating an attitude of gratitude is one of the easiest steps we can take to improve our lives. The happiness that we create for ourselves by showing our appreciation has far-reaching effects, both for ourselves and for those we come into contact with. The potential for gratitude to spread beyond those people also increases significantly – it can be highly contagious. There are so many different ways that we can express an attitude of gratitude. Here are just a few:Say “thank you”. This is the most basic and well-known way to show appreciation to others. Saying “thank you” is a great way to express your gratitude and can be done in several different forms. You can say it in person, over the phone, in a note, or in an email. Using this when it’s least expected can have significant results in lifting someone’s spirits. For example, a quick note to your child’s teacher thanking her for her hard work and patience might give her the boost of energy that she needs right when she needs it most. You may never know what effect this has had on her, but it will have an effect.Stop complaining about your life. Even as tough as life can be sometimes, remember that there is always someone that has things worse than you do. Constant complaining about what is wrong in your life will keep you focused on that. The opposite is true as well – focusing on what is right in your life will keep you focused on that. Focusing on the negative will bring you down while focusing on the positive will lift you up.Focus on what you have, not what you don’t have. This is very closely related to not complaining about your life. Being grateful for what you do have keeps you in a positive place, whereas focusing on what you don’t have keeps you in a negative place. Focusing on what you do have, regardless of how little or how much that may be, is a great expression of gratitude.Model your attitude. Modeling your attitude of gratitude is a great way to spread it to others. We’ve all heard the Golden Rule to “treat others the way you want to be treated”. Showing your appreciation to others shows them that you like to be treated this way too. An attitude of gratitude can be quite infectious!Be satisfied with simple things and be mindful of little things. Being grateful for the little things in our lives is just as important (if not, more so) than being grateful for the big things. Our lives are filled with little things every day that we can be grateful for. What about that front row parking spot you found when you were running late? Or the beautiful weather outside? How about the store clerk that went out of her way to help you? This may take a little practice, but there are many little things throughout the day that we can be grateful for if we take the time to notice them.Give to someone else. This is the best way to spread your gratitude of attitude. There are so many different ways to give to someone else. You could volunteer your time to help those less fortunate or give you time to children by mentoring them. The possibilities are endless but could make a huge difference in someone’s life without you evening knowing it. If they in turn give to someone else, the cycle could continue without end.Keep a gratitude journal. Let’s just be honest here: there are some days when it is hard to find anything to be grateful for. Keeping a gratitude journal can help with that. There are preprinted journals so you can just fill in the blanks or you can make your own. The important thing is to find at least 5 things each day to be grateful for, no matter how big or small those things are. A gratitude journal can serve two purposes: it will help you stop and remember what you are grateful for or it can serve as inspiration on days when you find it difficult to find anything to be grateful for by reading over past days.Practice random acts of kindness. This can be one of the most fun and rewarding ways to live a life of gratitude, especially when it’s done anonymously. Surprise someone with something unexpected. You may never know what it meant to them but it will likely make their day. Try putting a note in your child’s lunch or bringing treats to the office to share. Even a small gesture can mean so much to someone. Living a life of gratitude is one of the easiest ways to live a happier life. It takes very little effort to show someone you appreciate them but will mean so much to them. There are so many ways to make gratitude a part of our life and to spread that attitude to others. Make today the day you start living a life of gratitude and spread your light to the rest of the world!
April Mims is a life and career coach specializing in work/life balance issues and life and career transitions. Her coaching practice is Nexus Coaching Partners. She is passionate about empowering clients to balance the demands of a successful career and a strong family life. April invites you to a complimentary 30-minute coaching session to see if coaching could benefit you. To learn more or subscribe to The Nexus Connection newsletter, visit http://www.nexuscoachingpartners.com/
Saturday, September 17, 2011
People commonly struggle with managing time since they fail to treat it like a business. It all comes down to planning the day in order to make the best use of time but sometimes 'life happens' and people fail to stick to the plan! This is why it is much like managing a business insofar as if you allow yourself to get flustered and deviate from your intended course you will NOT be successful!
Here are 3 simple steps that are required for anyone to be successful at making the best use of time that is available to them!
If you are not motivated enough to put in the minimal amount of effort required for planning the day then you will never learn how to make the best use of time that is made available to you! Everyday will be chaotic and non-productive resulting in you experiencing a growing level of stress and frustration. If you can't or don't get this right, your chances of success in just about any endeavor will be minimal at best! Sound scary well it is but it is something you can easily overcome with the smallest amount of effort!
This is another area where many fall short since they fail to stick to the plan they have made which is crazy. When you schedule your activities or map out your daily list of goals and objectives you do so to help better coordinate your efforts. If you intend to make the best use of time you WILL need to refer back to your schedule otherwise what was the sense of putting it together in the first place!
It is so important to realize every day offers something new and often times something unexpected. It's call life and everybody has to deal with it so when something does NOT go according to what you expected don't sweat it! Many people tend to get flustered and it is at this point they fail to stick to the plan! Maybe the day presented you a couple 'curve balls' but adapt as you see fit and you can compensate for what you didn't accomplish later on or on another day if necessary! Simple stay the course the best you can and continue on!
Managing time effectively comes right down to planning the day while maintaining realistic expectations! Of course to make this work you must stick to the plan to get the results you are looking for but sometimes life does get in the way! Always remember what you are trying to accomplish is to make the best use of time available but sometimes this availability will be altered! When this occurs you must adapt to any changes and stick to the plan you already have to accomplish what you can. The 3 steps discussed above focus on establishing your objectives, taking the necessary actions to reach them and remaining adaptable to any unforeseen changes as you go along! In this way you can make the best use of time you have available while not concerning yourself over the things you can't control but rather plan accordingly after they do occur!
TJ Philpott is an author and Internet entrepreneur based out of North Carolina.
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Thursday, September 15, 2011
The faster I go, the behinder I get!" said the Rabbit, "Through the looking glass."
Question: What have we done with all the time we've saved, by using all the new time saving devices? Compared to even our parents, purveyors surround us with an ever growing array of gadgets, machines and tools, each of them designed to shorten our involvement with the activity at hand. When I was young, a baked potato was an hour long ordeal that occurred as a by-product of other activity in the oven. Now, it's a four minute nuke job in the microwave. Ever make home made bread? You're tied up in the kitchen for hours; mixing, kneading, rolling, waiting, kneading again and then baking.
Now you can dump the ingredients into a cylinder inside a machine that looks like R2D2 from "Star Wars." And four hours later, you have a wonderful tasting loaf that looks a little like a mushroom. How about word processors that check spelling, grammar and make alternate word suggestions? Fax machines and cellular phones give us instant access. Now we can talk while we drive or fly or...... (you fill in the blank).Roadways are better. Planes fly to more locations more often. Computers balance our checkbooks and even write the checks. There are self cleaning ovens, low- and no-maintenance building products, and pocket sized, computerized address books. With all of these time- and labor-saving devices, we would think that our lives have become easier, less complicated, less hurried. However, for most of us the opposite is true. As technology has increased, so have the demands that we and others make on our time. What happened? Why has life become more complicated? We have a tendency to add new activities without dropping old ones. We don't set limits on our work, allowing it to encroach on our sleep and leisure time. And we have difficulty saying no at proper times. Is there anything we can do about it? Yes, if we will do some honest self-appraisal and admit to our true priorities. Then, we must act with discipline to work on what we've defined as important. Here are some suggestions on how to reclaim some of the time we've saved but squandered.
1) Drop ritualized behavior and get right to work.2) Scan the paper. Let weekly magazines accumulate for a month and then look at in reverse order. You will find less to read as you go back to the older issues. 3) Touch everything once, or as few times as possible. Handle the mail piece by piece. Toss the worthless. Answer the question. Balance the checkbook the day the statement arrives.4) Use self-discipline to pare down your duties. Resign from the marginal committee. Quit the least productive group. When necessary, say no, politely but firmly. Then once you've reclaimed time, assemble it into hours, and protect it, or you will lose it again. By following these steps, we can reclaim some time for ourselves. Remember, we all have the same 24 hours per day to work with. How we use them determines the quality of our life. Find an hour for your self this week. Then use it to relax.
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