Wednesday, November 26, 2008

Solitude and Loneliness

From the outside, solitude and loneliness look the same. Both are marked by solitariness. But all that samelike ends at the surface.

Loneliness is a negative situation, marked by isolation. One thinksthat something is missing. It is probablyto be with people and still feel lonely—perhaps the most sadform of loneliness.

Solitude is the state of being alone without being lonely. It is a positive condition of engagement with oneself. Solitude is desirable, a state of being alone where you have wonderful and sufficient company.

Solitude is a time that can be used for contemplation, growth or enjoyment . Deep reading requires solitude, so does experiencing the beauty of nature. Good thought and creativity sometimes do too.

Loneliness is harsh, sad, a deficient, a state of disappointment characterized by a sense of estrangement, aloneness.

Solitude is something you choose. Loneliness is imposed on you by others.

They are very different.
you crave solitude.
you fear loneliness.

We have seen what people, when they talk about solitude and loneliness. Solitude is by choice and loneliness is something thrust upon you. However, what if one who sought after solitude was not given the chance of choosing that solitude? What if they were never invited to a party, they were left alone and not bothered about? This is likely to happen for after several invites, which being turned down lead to the fact being opinionthat this person will not come even if we invite them. Therefore, there is no point in inviting them. In this case solitude is thrust on them.

Loneliness is hard to face. It requires more than just casual social relationship. I think some people need to form original contact with others on a personal basis. Talking with strangers is good but not so meaningful. I think that if loneliness is to heal, it needs more energy and time. It needs an investment in other people and lenience until that investment results in truly relationships.

If loneliness has taught something, it's the value of a friend. Perhaps that's was worth it.

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Psychology Today: Solitude vs Loneliness
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