Sunday, November 30, 2008

Where Your Dreams Become Reality

"Quit! Give up! You're beaten!" They shout and plead,
There's just too much against you now, this time you can't succeed.
And as I start to hang my head in front of failure's face,
My downward fall is broken by the memory of a race.

And hope refills my weakened will as I recall that scene.
For just the thought of that short race rejuvenates my being.
A children's race, young boys, young men; now I remember well.
Excitement, sure, but also fear; it wasn't hard to tell.

They all lined up so full of hope. Each thought to win that race.
Or tie for first, or if not that, at least take second place.
And fathers watched from off the side, each cheering for his son.
And each boy hoped to show his dad that he would be the one.

The whistle blew and off they went, young hearts and hopes of fire.
To win, to be the hero there, was each young boy's desire.
And one boy in particular, his dad was in the crowd,
Was running near the lead and thought, "My dad will be so proud."

But as he speeded down the field across a shallow dip,
The little boy who thought to win, lost his step and slipped.
Trying hard to catch himself, his hands flew out to brace,
And mid the laughter of the crowd, he fell flat on his face.

So down he fell and with him hope. He couldn't win it now.
Embarrassed, sad, he only wished to disappear somehow.
But as he fell, his dad stood up and showed his anxious face,
Which to the boy so clearly said, "Get up and win that race!"

He quickly rose, no damage done - behind a bit, that's all,
And ran with all his mind and might to make up for his fall.
So anxious to restore himself to catch up and to win,
His mind went faster than his legs. He slipped and fell again.

He wished that he had quite before with only one disgrace.
I'm hopeless as a runner now, I shouldn't try to race.
But, in the laughing crowd he searched and found his father's face
That steady look that said again, "Get up and win the race."

So, he jumped up to try again. Ten yards behind the last.
If I'm to gain those yards, he thought, I've got to run real fast.
Exceeding everything he had, he regained eight or ten,
But trying so hard to catch the lead, he slipped and fell again.

Defeat! He lay there silently, a tear dropped from his eye.
There's no sense running anymore - three strikes and I'm out - why try?
The will to rise had disappeared, all hope had flew away.
So far behind, so error prone, closer all the way.

I've lost, so what's the use, he thought, I'll live with my disgrace.
But then he thought about his dad, who soon he'd have to face.
"Get up," an echo sounded low. "Get up and take your place.
You were not meant for failure here, get up and win the race."

With borrowed will, "Get up," it said, "You haven't lost at all,
For winning is not more than this, to rise each time you fall."
So up he rose to win once more. And with a new commit,
He resolved that win or lose, at least he wouldn't quit.

So far behind the others now, the most he'd ever been.
Still he gave it all he had and ran as though to win.
Three times he'd fallen stumbling, three times he'd rose again.
Too far behind to hope to win, he still ran to the end.

They cheered the winning runner as he crossed first place.
Head high and proud and happy; no falling, no disgrace.
But when the fallen youngster crossed the line, last place,
The crowd gave him the greater cheer for finishing the race.

And even though he came in last, with head bowed low, unproud;
You would have thought he'd won the race, to listen to the crowd.
And to his Dad he sadly said, "I didn't do so well."
"To me you won," his father said, "You rose each time you fell."

And when things seemed dark and hard and difficult to face,
The memory of that little boy - helps me in my race.
For all of life is like that race, with ups and down and all,
And all you have to do to win - is rise each time you fall.
"Quit!" "GIVE UP, YOU'RE BEATEN." They still shout in my face.
But another voice within me says, "GET UP AND WIN THE RACE!"


-Dee Groberg

Saturday, November 29, 2008

ONE HUNDRED WAYS TO LIVE TO ONE HUNDRED (2)

* 51. Commune with nature.

* 52. Sing in the car.

* 53. Write a poem.

* 54. Whistle while you work.

* 55. Read a book.

* 56. Take your medicine as prescribed.

* 57. Challenge yourself.

* 58. Count your blessings.

* 59. Indulge yourself.

* 60. Seize the day.

* 61. Take setbacks in stride.

* 62. If you want to stop taking a medication, ask your doctor.

* 63. Cuddle.

* 64. Use olive oil.

* 65. Eat your brussel sprouts.

* 66. Lighten up.

* 67. Choose a career you love.

* 68. Be active in your community.

* 69. Read the paper every day.

* 70. Sit up straight.

* 71. Keep your mind active.

* 72. Travel.

* 73. Soak in the tub.

* 74. Don't be jealous.

* 75. Eat an apple a day.

* 76. Be generous with hugs.

* 77. Make time for your partner.

* 78. Keep in touch with family.

* 79. Bake a pie.

* 80. Eat plenty of fish.

* 81. Get plenty of fresh air.

* 82. Be yourself.

* 83. Swim.

* 84. Make time for your grandchildren.

* 85. Control your temper.

* 86. Share.

* 87. Take nothing for granted.

* 88. Ask questions when your doctor gives you new medications.

* 89. Power walk at the mall.

* 90. Don't procrastinate.

* 91. Accept those things which you cannot change.

* 92. Don't drink and drive.

* 93. Create solutions, not problems.

* 94. Be sociable.

* 95. Feed the birds.

* 96. Pamper yourself once a day.

* 97. Go fishing.

* 98. Smile.

* 99. Smell the flowers.

* 100. Listen to your doctor.


~~ Author Unknown ~~

Friday, November 28, 2008

ONE HUNDRED WAYS TO LIVE TO ONE HUNDRED

* 1. Enjoy yourself.

* 2. Stay young at heart.

* 3. Be honest and open.

* 4. Look for rainbows.

* 5. Walk to work.

* 6. Take the stairs.

* 7. Keep your curiosity.

* 8. Stop smoking.

* 9. Listen to your body.

* 10. Watch what you eat.

* 11. Watch what you say.

* 12. Make time for your children.

* 13. Don't rest on your laurels.

* 14. Drink lots of water.

* 15. Have faith in others.

* 16. Walk in the park.

* 17. Forgive.

* 18. Be an optimist.

* 19. Make love.

* 20. Cross-country ski.

* 21. Discover romance.

* 22. Exercise regularly.

* 23. Do Tai Chi.

* 24. Try Yoga.

* 25. Plant a garden.

* 26. Eat plenty of fruit.

* 27. Golf.

* 28. Adopt a pet.

* 29. Laugh often.

* 30. Be positive.

* 31. Give, don't take.

* 32. Marry your sweetheart.

* 33. Celebrate your marriage.

* 34. Enjoy being single.

* 35. Relax.

* 36. Eat your greens.

* 37. Take up lawn bowling.

* 38. Do nothing in excess.

* 39. Do everything in excess.

* 40. Serve chicken noodle soup.

* 41. Practice what you preach.

* 42. Look before you leap.

* 43. Make time for your friends.

* 44. Reduce your cholesterol.

* 45. Early to bed, early to rise.

* 46. Don't mope.

* 47. Try new things.

* 48. Skinny dip.

* 49. Write to a friend.

* 50. Play tennis.
........................................... to be continued

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

Solitude and Loneliness

From the outside, solitude and loneliness look the same. Both are marked by solitariness. But all that samelike ends at the surface.

Loneliness is a negative situation, marked by isolation. One thinksthat something is missing. It is probablyto be with people and still feel lonely—perhaps the most sadform of loneliness.

Solitude is the state of being alone without being lonely. It is a positive condition of engagement with oneself. Solitude is desirable, a state of being alone where you have wonderful and sufficient company.

Solitude is a time that can be used for contemplation, growth or enjoyment . Deep reading requires solitude, so does experiencing the beauty of nature. Good thought and creativity sometimes do too.

Loneliness is harsh, sad, a deficient, a state of disappointment characterized by a sense of estrangement, aloneness.

Solitude is something you choose. Loneliness is imposed on you by others.

They are very different.
you crave solitude.
you fear loneliness.

We have seen what people, when they talk about solitude and loneliness. Solitude is by choice and loneliness is something thrust upon you. However, what if one who sought after solitude was not given the chance of choosing that solitude? What if they were never invited to a party, they were left alone and not bothered about? This is likely to happen for after several invites, which being turned down lead to the fact being opinionthat this person will not come even if we invite them. Therefore, there is no point in inviting them. In this case solitude is thrust on them.

Loneliness is hard to face. It requires more than just casual social relationship. I think some people need to form original contact with others on a personal basis. Talking with strangers is good but not so meaningful. I think that if loneliness is to heal, it needs more energy and time. It needs an investment in other people and lenience until that investment results in truly relationships.

If loneliness has taught something, it's the value of a friend. Perhaps that's was worth it.

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Psychology Today: Solitude vs Loneliness
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