The World Health Organization predicts that by 2020, depression will be second only to heart disease in terms of global illnesses. Our happiness, when it occurs, is usually the result of outside events, such as when someone is kind to us, or when some opportunity is presented to us. That state of mind is fleeting. Our goal should be to be happy no matter what happens to us.
Unfortunately it takes conscious effort to become happy. Our minds are wired to be fearful. We are much more likely to notice and remember something that frightens us than something that brings us joy. Being consistently happy doesn't come easily. Like most worthwhile things, it requires a lot of effort in order to achieve it. You can't just decide to be happy. You need to become aware of which habits support happiness in your life and which ones don't. Wake up, and before you do anything, envision a day filled with happiness. Really picture how things would be if everything went your way and wonderful little surprises kept on showing up. Fantasize about the laughter and joy you'd feel until . . . well, until you feel it.
What would you do, where would you go, who would you go with is you were living the exact life you want? If you knew that anything was possible? Concentrate on your vision, notice how it makes you feel. It's not what happens to you, but how you respond to what happens to you that makes the difference.
You can respond or a react to any situation..... its your choice Rather than concentrating on what you want to do, think in terms of what kind of person you want to be. Happiness and unhappiness depend upon our actions.
We are what we think. With our thoughts we make the world. As the wheel follows the ox that draws the cart... Speak or act with a pure mind and happiness will follow you.
Although it may not be an easy process I believe in the power of change!
source: Janie Behr